Recently, I found myself confronted with quite the quandary as I tried to pick out an outfit for a first date. We were going to a very low-key sushi spot in Little Tokyo, so I thought flats—paired with a sexy dress, of course—were appropriate.

Hell No, said my roommate. You’ll feel stupid in heels, said one of my best college friends. Guys don’t get flats, said another close friend, a noted local stylist.

And man was I torn.

I try not to listen to others when getting dressed as I usually trust my own judgment (even when Joan Collins-esque pearl drop earrings are involved) and frankly, don’t usually give a shit what anyone else thinks about my clothes. But this time, every outside opinion stayed in my head as I sorted through my wardrobe in search of the perfect first date ensemble.

When the opposite sex is involved, I usually like the contrast of flats, which conveys sweetness, with something a bit sexier such as a mini skirt and sheer chiffon blouse that shows a hint of lingerie. And while most girls like to feel taller, I actually tend to feel beastly when I go above my 5’5 frame.

What’s your opinion—heels or flats on a first date??

PS- I went with heels. We’ll see if he calls.